🔑 The 5 keys to a new beginning: Break the self-help cycle and get what you truly want 🔑

Hicham El Sghiar
Jun 5, 2025
3 min read

In today’s world of endless self-help books, productivity hacks, and healing techniques, personal growth has almost become a performance. We keep striving, journaling, meditating, visualizing, and upgrading. And yet—many of us still feel stuck, overwhelmed, or secretly unfulfilled.

Brian D. Ridgway offers a radical perspective:"What if you're not broken? What if you don't need fixing, but remembering?"

In his book Break Your Self-Help Addiction: The 5 Keys to Getting What You Want, Ridgway goes beyond the surface. His message is clear: stop trying to become someone else and start being who you truly are. His 5 keys aren't more things to do. They're doorways into freedom.

De 5 sleutels tot een nieuw begin - Klarvida Coaching Waregem

🔑 Key 1: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

Self-help often stems from a core belief: "Something is wrong with me." This belief fuels the constant need to improve, heal, or achieve. But what if the belief itself is the real block?

🧭 Reflect:

Am I pursuing growth because I feel broken or because I love myself?
What if I no longer needed to earn worthiness?

💬 At Klarvida, we don’t help you become someone else. We help you reconnect with who you were before the world told you who to be.

🔑 Key 2: Reveal the Unconscious Scripts

Most of us live by invisible scripts. Beliefs we inherited from parents, culture, trauma or repetition. Things like:

"I'm not good enough."
"I must earn love."
"Money is hard to come by."
"Rest is lazy."

These beliefs shape our choices and limit our possibilities. Ridgway calls them "spells" — unconscious programs that keep looping until we break them.

🧠 NLP helps us identify and rewrite these patterns.

🧭 Reflect:

What patterns keep repeating in my life?
What belief might be creating that?

💬 Klarvida coaching brings these beliefs to the surface - not to judge them, but to set you free from them.

🔑 Key 3: Return to Power Through Presence

You don’t need more willpower. You need presence. Ridgway teaches the 5 Layer Breath technique as a way to come back to the body and into the now.

🌬 Your breath is your bridge between mind and body. Between stress and calm. Between illusion and clarity.

🧭 Practice:

Pause. Take five slow breaths before making a choice.
Notice what shifts in your state.

💬 In Klarvida sessions, breathwork and mindfulness bring clients back to their center. Back to truth. Back to now.

🔑 Key 4: Release the Illusion of Problems

Most of what we call "problems" are mental constructions. A situation becomes a problem only when we believe it shouldn't be happening.

"You don't suffer the situation; you suffer your belief about the situation." – Byron Katie

When we stop labeling our experience, we free ourselves. We shift from resistance to acceptance. From panic to perspective.

🧭 Reflect:

What if this isn’t a problem but an opportunity to grow?
What story am I telling about this situation?

💬 At Klarvida, we don’t offer quick fixes. We offer clarity. So you can meet life with presence, not panic.

🔑 Key 5: Embody What You Already Are

You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are.

Want peace? Be peace. Want love? Embody love. Want abundance? Think, feel, and act from abundance.

This isn’t faking it. It’s choosing to align with your highest self, before external results show up.

🧭 Practice:

Ask: What version of me already lives this desire?
What would they do today? What would they believe?

💬 Klarvida helps you bridge the gap between who you are now and who you’re becoming—by helping you remember: there is no gap.

🌈 Final Thoughts: Your Freedom Begins Now

The 5 keys aren’t steps on a ladder to success. They’re reminders that you were never lost. Only distracted. You don’t need fixing, improving, or earning. You need remembering, presence, and self-love.